Relationship patterns keep us safe. And in order to break them gently, we need more discernment and less self-criticism.

Have you ever met someone and felt an instant connection? Research from UCLA and Dartmouth suggests that our brains recognize familiar feelings before we even speak.

When you see a pattern, it can change your life. Seeing a pattern can even make you smarter. Recognizing a pattern is like looking through a telescope for the first time. As if with new eyes, you see ...